Personal > Should I Move? (#16680)
I'm 28 and have two children aged 6 and 9, they live with thier dad but i see them every weekend. My boyfriend is moving abroad to spain for the summer then travelling around finding work as he goes and has asked me to come along. The plan is that i would come back to see my children every school holidays or they could come to whereever we are (obviously i would need to fly back to get them) I really want to do this but am so unsure off if it could work, is it just a nice dream, will it been seen as abandoning my children? is it enough to have them every holidays? i just dont no wot to do, am i being selfish considering this? their dad will not allow me to take them with me so that unfortunatly is not an option. Please help xjenny - 3/8/2010 3:34:36 PM - Country: United Kingdom - Close Problem Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment
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I think many people including your children will view this as you abandoning them. It's all very well having a dream and flying off around the world but you do have a responsibility to your kids and they need you. Every school holidays isn't enough to spend time with their mum, at least not until they are old enough to start living their own lives (late teens). Taking them around with you shouldn't be an option anyway as not only they will be taken away from dad, their school lives and social lives would be disrupted too much by travelling around with either of you having no definite work. Your partner should realise that you have an obligation to your kids, and if he was truly part of the family he wouldn't be considering this move either. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear but it doesn't sound like the travelling is going to be an easy road, 'finding work as he goes' is generally alot harder than it seems, especially since the recession kicked in. I don't want you to look at this trip through rose-coloured glasses as if things didn't turn out, all you would be thinking of is your kids and the damage you had done by leaving them. They do need a mum, and you have your whole life to explore and travel. Every opportunity that arises isn't necessarily a good one.
Sttuffy - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 3/9/2010 1:01:08 AMComment ID: 60195- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!
iv got 3 kids and i would never leave them it would never enter my head there your kids thay come first be for enything
Anonymous - Posted: 3/12/2010 5:30:16 AMComment ID: 60252- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!
NO!!! your kids need you. even if they live with dad, if you go globe trotting its like you abandoned them. stick around for your kids, if you dont they could end up hating you and no mother wants that. ive got 4 and wouldnt leave mine, not even my eldest and hes 24
caroline - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 3/12/2010 8:13:13 AMComment ID: 60258- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!
Thanks for ur comments, i do think ur all right it would be like abandoning them, even though it seems like a good idea to me sometimes i guess really its not the right thing to do, thats proberly why i needed to put it on here, for reassurance. When i think about it if i truely thought moving was the right thing to do i wouldnt of needed to do this post! I love my children and dont want any regrets about leaving them or for them to feel like i didnt care
- Posted: 3/17/2010 7:58:27 PMComment ID: 60414- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!

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