Personal > Headache!!!! (#16225)
My best friend Dave and I have been friends for 10 years and love each other to bits. Pretty much from the start he wanted to be more than just friends - he made his feelings very clear - EVERYBODY knew he liked me like that problem was I didn't want a boyfriend and I did't really see him in that way.

In january 20008 I started seeing this guy (who Dave didn't like at all, and to be fair no one really did) One night around March 2008 Dave and I were both very drunk and I was annoyed with my boyfriend. So Dave came back to my place and we ended up having sex. The next morning I explained I wanted to be with my boyfriend and what happened the previous night shouldn't have happened and was very sorry if I'd given him false hope at all. He said he was fine with that and knew what it was.

oneI didn't see Dave much as my boyfriend hated the fact we were so close and knew Dave thought he was an idiot (which it later turned out he was) then one night out in May 2009 we were both going out for a mates birthday and got a chance to all get together and I thought Dave and my boyfriend were getting along okay (although I recently found out he threatened to beat Dave up if he touched me - he didnt actually know about my sleeping with him).

Then last month I found out tht my boyfriend had been sleeping with about ten to fifteen girls the entire time we had been together and we broke up. Dave sent me a message making sure I was okay and we started chatting again. On 5 February all our friends were having a night out and said we would meet up. we were was hugging and touching all night and it was great. I ended up having a party at mine after the club closed and Dave and I ended up in bed just chatting until 7am. We were hugging and having pecks on the lips, everything was great and that night it was like something clicked and I realised tht I wanted to be with him he is the perfect guy!!!

When we woke up about 10am he had to go to work and other people was there so couldn't really talk so gave him a quick kiss then he left. That night I sent him a text saying if your not up to much tonight do you want to come over just to hang out and he said he would, as we had both had 3 hours sleep and were shattered so we both ended up falling asleep early so didn't meet. He sent a text the next day to say sorry.

Last night at about I sent text and I still haven't teceived a text back, all my friends keep on saying there sure he still likes me and that I should tell him, but I turned him down so much before I don't see how he possible could and think maybe it was just the drink on Friday. My friends are texting me every few minutes asking me if I've told him how I feel but if he's not even texting me back surely he's not interested. I just need an outsider's opinion. Should I ask him to come over and tell him how I feel?


L - 2/8/2010 5:19:23 AM - Country: United Kingdom - Close Problem Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment
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Juyst wait, he hasn't lost interest. He's waited so long, give the guy a break. He'll phone you, you see.
Anonymous - Posted: 2/8/2010 8:26:33 AMComment ID: 59662- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!
Give him a day, maybe two. Give yourself a day or two to figure out exactly what you feel, you seem to have been to-ing and frro-ing for a while and perhaps you need to clear your head before you jump in and spill your emotions onto this guy.
If after a day or two you still feel like its the right thing to do, and he still hasn't replied to your text, then get in touch with him, invite him around and tell him. If its right its right, but some things just can't be done on the spur of the moment, when your head is clear and you know for a fact that it is definitely what you are looking for then jump in head first and make it work.
Good luck.
YunaBee - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 2/8/2010 3:04:20 PMComment ID: 59675- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!
I'm in a similar situation... we were mates, we ended up having a wonderful night together... and the following day... went a few days where we struggled to cope with the suddenness of it all then we declared our feelings. Give it time... he won't be away for long. Just wish my babe would stop trying to backtrack though. I know it's just fear of the unknown but it's driving me potty.
CSSkohai - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 2/8/2010 3:50:30 PMComment ID: 59680- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!

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