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My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half. While he is perfectly happy with the relationship over time I have gradually realised I need time to myself. I still care deeply for him, but if I remain in the relationship much longer I am almost certain I will begin to resent him and will consider cheating on him purely because of that. I have tried to end things this morning, yet I was made to feel very guilty as he hadn't seen it coming and he argued I owed him at least as much to try and see if we could work things out. I agreed to this, primarily out of guilt from hurting him.

Now I have a few days to think to myself before we've arranged to meet again where I can try and pinpoint the things that make me unhappy about staying in the relationship. The thing is I can't seem to pick out a particular flaw in our relationship which has been overall good - I only know that I no longer wish to be involved with anyone, at least for the time being. Added to this is the extra guilt that I know I am in a way abandoning him - due to a mixup in university, he's currently not studying and unemployed, with nearly all his close friends either out of the country or far enough away that seeing them on a regular basis is near impossible.

I've agreed to try and work through the problems, but in a way I've almost made up my mind that I want to end things. I just don't know how. Admiral87 - 2/7/2010 5:13:23 PM - Country: United Kingdom - Close Problem Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment
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You don't say what age you are but i think every person at some point in their life needs to identify who they are as an individual person and not as a couple. Maybe this is it for you. Or maybe you feel he is holding you back from where you want to be in life. Either way you have to be selfish and get your own needs and find out what you want from life.

Be firm, don't be manipulated into staying in a relationship you no longer wish to be in, no good will come of it.

Good luck!!
Anonymous - Posted: 2/8/2010 8:30:25 AMComment ID: 59664- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!
i was in the exact position as u are in now, but we wre together 3 years, lived together and engaged..what you need to think about is YOURSELF and the end of the day you are the only one that matters, and i know that might sound nasty but you have to live your life for yourself, not for others, its going to be hard and you will most certaintly feel guilty and but that gradually gets better. maybe you just need to be on your own to find who you are and what you want in life even if that means hurting someone. xxxx
Anonymous - Posted: 2/8/2010 3:51:41 PMComment ID: 59681- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this commentNominate This Reply For A Mug!

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