Look, i dont want to scare you but sometimes its not long before emotional abuse turns into physical. Get him help or get out of it while you can.

Anonymous - Posted: 11/27/2009 11:41:13 PMComment ID: 57811- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

Hi Jennifer, you need to tell someone. Talk to you mum or a close friend. This needs to stop!

Anonymous - Posted: 11/28/2009 5:21:45 AMComment ID: 57812- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

Emotional abuse is the start, then the physical abuse follows. Tell Matt to leave you alone!

indie - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 11/28/2009 5:31:31 AMComment ID: 57813- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

Just read your letter through again and you'll surely begin to wonder how you can love a horrible man like this? For heaven's sake he tells you that you deserve to die, swears at you and says he will go elsewhere for sex. Well let him - get out NOW the easiest and quickest way you can. He is destroying your self esteem because only that way would you possibly put up with this sort of treatment - how dare he? I wish I could speak to him, but then I'd probably lose my temper and get arrested.

Seriously though, as Indie and Anonymous 57811 say, this looks as though it could end in physical abuse - PLEASE get away now Jennifer.

kaitlinktm - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 11/28/2009 6:23:10 AMComment ID: 57814- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

Can you plan to leave? Because this isn't going to get better, it's only likely to get worse. Two women every week die in the UK because of domestic violence related incidents and most of them are strangled.

You really do need to get yourself safe. Please consider calling Women's Aid on 0808 2000 247 who can help you to leave safely, help you to get a Restraining Order if you need one, help you with counselling which so many women find helps when they have gone through a similar situation and help you to find somewhere else to live if you don't have family or friends that you can go to.

Belle - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 11/28/2009 5:36:02 PMComment ID: 57828- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

Two words. Youre dumped.

Bluehaven - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 11/28/2009 6:01:08 PMComment ID: 57829- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

Belle has quoted the same line I've quoted on this site since it's inception nearly 4 years ago. TWO WOMEN DIE EACH AND EVERY WEEK IN THE UK ALONE AS A DIRECT RESULT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. That is 104 women.

He may not have physically abused you yet, but stay any longer and he will and he will convince you that it is all your fault, that you drove him to it adn the sad thing is you WILL believe him even though it is all pure bollocks.

Do you as Belle advises and ring Womens Aid 0808 2000 247. You don't have to tolerate this. You mustn't tolerate this, no one should.

So if you don't 'perform' for him he'll go else where. Well damn well let the vile piece of filth sod off! You deserve better than this. Pack your things and get out, stay with friends and family. Get a restraining order and start a new life.

You don't need him. He will never change (why would he want to - he is in control getting what he wants, when he wants). He will destroy you.

Please jennifer get out before you become a statistic. Get out now while you can.

Loobie - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 11/29/2009 5:53:25 AMComment ID: 57838- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

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Loobie - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 11/29/2009 5:56:28 AMComment ID: 57839- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

I cringed when I read your post, because no one should be in a relationship where they are abused like this. I can't actually think of any worse things you can say to your partner, and forcing you to do what he wants in the bedroom!? He is treating you like a prostitute! How can you love a man like that? It makes me sick to the stomach when you hear stories like this. You don't deserve this, no one deserves this, but only you can make the change. Friends, family, anyone you can talk to you is better than staying where you are, even if you haven't spoken to them for some time because he stopped you from doing that. It will only get worse hun, please listen to us. Think back to what you used to be like, realise that he has changed you, controlled you, taken away your confidence, and leave! It doesn't matter how, so long as you get away from him. He doesn't love you, or he wouldn't treat you like this, why waste your love on this? Please leave. It may hurt now but in time you will look back and thank your lucky stars. You can regain your confidence, you can be happy, but not with this horrible pig. Keep us updated x

Sttuffy - (Add As Friend) - Posted: 11/29/2009 6:34:48 AMComment ID: 57841- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment

you should get out while you can, ive been through it it only gets worse and does lead to physical it is hard when you love them but you deserve better find someone who loves and appriciates you! good luck!

Anonymous - Posted: 11/29/2009 6:28:25 PMComment ID: 57858- Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment